[SauronOfMordor]

Moving on, I noticed this very rigid consensus process, where the merit of the ideas submitted had less importance than the WAY they were presented. When I suggested an idea, it was initially well received and adopted. Later on, when the same subject came back up (for no apparent reason - nothing ever seemed to be settled), it was not well received - and they went on to discuss the whole subject all over again.

Where I work, I frequently find myself the lone guy in a meeting with several women. One book that I've found very useful in getting me to understand how women interact with each other is "In the Company of Women" by Pat Heim, Susan, Ph.D. Murphy, Susan K. Golant

Women, especially women in groups, seem to like consensus-based solutions, where everybody has a chance to talk about what she thinks about it, and especially how she feels about it. Solutions where somebody says "Lets do A", and the women can't come up with a rational objection to A, may be adopted without visible dissent, but there will be some disgruntlement with the process. If the women manage to do a lot of back and forth and discussion until nobody can remember who originally brought A up, they're much happier.

One woman has this thing about "unilateral decision-making" -- she fins it most objectionable when I just do things without talking it over first with the group.

[guitfiddlist]

Women, especially women in groups, seem to like consensus-based solutions, where everybody has a chance to talk about what she thinks about it, and especially how she feels about it. Solutions where somebody says "Lets do A", and the women can't come up with a rational objection to A,

I honestly do appreciate your points. But the whole thing is kind of academic, really, because it ain't going to last. And when the whole structure collapses, they will see a ridiculously brutal structure we will all hate.