Well, I have been married 39 years and believe it or not, "my husband hates to pay bills,"
as do I
would rather have surgery than go with me to buy my car,M
As do I
"likes that I pick out his cars and tend to investments. He works much longer hours than I do and in his spare time likes to read, play on his computer, ski and dive."
not so much do I
I think we evolved to an acceptable division of labor without any rancor. And he doesn't seem to be any less masculine for it nor do I seem any less feminine for it. You married the rightr person as did I it would seem.
Perhaps. We do have this division of labor, but here's what we do: we pick up a bottle of cheap Australian wine, jump into our Corvette convertible on a warm Saturday afternoon, and play good music. By this time, we know the tune. And it looks like you do too.
It is great isn't it. A long marriage. The benefits are inestimatible. We laugh at something funny without having to say what it is because we have been laughing at the same things for forty years. We finish each others sentences and sometimes one word can convey a whole conversation because we have the same history. When I forget something, he remembers. When we both forget, we howl with laughter. We can make decisions alone knowing in our bones what the other person would say. There are no secrets, no pretense, no fights or even spats. Our only abiding difference is clothing and baseball. I love both and he would wear a sweat suit every day happily and wouldn't go to a baseball game unless I insisted. So we compromise and I buy alot of clothes and he goes to a few games.