[cyborg]

I do not share these nags sentiments. I'm 30 and single and unlike these deluded women, am a bit sad I don't have a boyfriend. All I read in this article is 'it's all about me' and all that super single crap. When they're old and have no one, then they'll wish they got married and had some babies.

[dakine]

Exactly...I just see things from the other side, I'm 40, been married 20 years, couldn't imagine it any other way...

[Publius]

Hey, I'm 55, single, with no prospects either. Of course, finding a female who shares my passion for classical music is pretty much impossible. That's one of the many reasons I took myself off the market a decade ago.

Having come from a dysfunctional family, I'm all too much aware that not everybody is cut out for marriage and family. Being alone isn't all that bad.

[SoDak]

I think the sentiments they are expressing are, more than anything, making the best of a situation they don't especially like. I'm 38 and single, and although I make fun of my married friends, I'd like to be a married man some day. But, I'd rather be alone than with the wrong person, just as what was stated above. I have friends going around for their third time already.

[gawatchman]

I agree. I am single, and try to live my life to its fullest, but I do not embrace "singledom", and I would like to be married someday.

[McLynnan]

I can see how you would feel that way, but don't settle! I think the desire to be a mother is strong in most women, and it sounds like that weighs heavily on your mind.

I was married 30 years, now divorced almost a year, and have a junior in high school. Now that I'm uncurled from the fetal position I was in when I learned my marriage was over, I am seeing a LOT of advantages to being single. I'm learning how to selfishlessly indulge myself (within the parameters of being a good mother). This is a new and fun thing for me after so many years of always putting myself second. While I have some sadness about the approaching empty nest, I'm also excited about the possibilities that are ahead of me. I'll never say never, but for now a new relationship is not even on my radar. I love my new independence.

[raloxk]

Singles that live in large urban areas are the most miserable people ive ever met. What kind of person does "speed" dating???????

[tortoise]

I'm 30 and single and unlike these deluded women, am a bit sad I don't have a boyfriend.

I'm your age (plus or minus a year), and I know what you mean, but I think these days I would be sadder with the wrong girlfriend than no girlfriend if I really thought about it.

Ah, hell. Even that isn't really true. So these women are crazy; it is always nice to have someone around. How many people really want to be single? Although some of these women may be "okay" being single, I'll bet they aren't really happy. I don't know how many women around here in their mid-30s that I run into that suddenly realized they don't want to be single and become ultra-desperate as a result. They lied to themselves for so long that they swing to the opposite extreme psychologically, when the overwhelming weight of reality hits them.

At least you know exactly what you really want and are honest about it, trend du jour be damned. Emotional and psychological maturity goes a long way toward eventually finding a really rewarding relationship. A lot of the Super-Single-to-Suddenly-Desperate women find themselves in bad relationships due to rather excessive compromises. A disaster anyway you slice it.

As to why I meet so many of these women: I live in the greater San Francisco Bay Area. Enough said.

[Lazamataz]

I do not share these nags sentiments. I'm 30 and single and unlike these deluded women, am a bit sad I don't have a boyfriend. All I read in this article is 'it's all about me' and all that super single crap. When they're old and have no one, then they'll wish they got married and had some babies.

Marry me.

[HitmanLV]

I'm a 36 year old male and many of the women I know range in age of mid 20s to mid 30s, and older. Almost all are single and have no man or boyfriend in their life. To hear them talk, they sound a lot like the women in this article - "I'm not sad!" "I'm living the life."

Don't beleive a word of it. Most are clearly down on their situation. Most have extended negative outlooks on life and love and frankly, I don't blame them. Their problem stems from being burned a few times and extrapolating the lessons from those situations onto every other situation they find themselves in. Th result, they are 'down on love,' and find fault with any man they meet, and end up sabotaging their relationships.

Also, the women I know are too demanding - not to say that they shouldn't have strong standards but they manage to disqualify every man they meet. They can't possibly meet that many clowns, so something is wrong with their filtering process.

Same goes for men that I know, so this isn't a sexist analysis.

Some insight into this is that I date women usually younger than me, age 23-27 or so (I just turned 36 a month ago). When the women in my life meet a women I am dating, they react VERY negatively to her. They really resent that 1. I chose a young woman, 2. a young woman chose me, and 3. we both are happy. The cattiness comes out in super-form, and these are women who either I have never asked out, or asked out and was shot down years ago. Go figure, huh?

To be fair, I bait them a bit. I can't resist though - these are women who, while friendly to me, have gleefully pushed my buttons in the past for a cheap thrill or laugh, or otherwise alienated me in some way. So when they do meet my honey, I am proud of her and I always ham it up ("Yea, Ana is VERY athletic, you know back in college a few years ago she was very into gymnastics...she is in amazing shape still!" and stuff like that!) Fair is fair - these women would do the same to me, and it was very self centered of them to think that the tables wouldn't be turned on them, someday.

To be fair, the men close to my age in my life tend to not like the women in my life either. It isn't jealousy, exactly, I think, that motivates these folks. I just think it's that they have an image of what life is supposed to be like, and when confronted with a challenge to that paradigm, they react negatively.

The only men I know who have no problem with it are older men I golf with (older being relative - age 40-60 or so). Since I always used to get along with folks older than me, it works out nicely.

As for you, you are a young woman and I hope you find a nice conservative, republican gentleman (I don't date democrat women anymore - only conservatives and apolitical ladies). The men are out there - most men I know are single and looking and are down about their situation, to be sure, though if you ask them they 'love' being single. It's a sham, too.

If ANY Freeper lady wants my exclusive 'how to get a good man' advice in a nutshell, email me. No joke: I have hooked up 3 women in my life with very suitable gentlemen in the last 2 years, and it was a very easy strategy that they marveled at when I told it to them. Maybe I should do an audiotape product on it and sell it for $100s in the self help market? But if you want it, I'll tell you for free!

[Terabitten]

I do not share these nags sentiments. I'm 30 and single and unlike these deluded women, am a bit sad I don't have a boyfriend. All I read in this article is 'it's all about me' and all that super single crap. When they're old and have no one, then they'll wish they got married and had some babies.

I'm right there with you. I was married, but got divorced due to my wife's infidelity while I was deployed overseas. I never wanted to be single, and three years later, I still don't.