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I'm not saying your post doesn't bear merit. However, from a Christian perspective, the issue of pornography is something that a man (or a woman) needs to talk to God about, agree with what He has to say about it, and then do what He says. It won't be easy, but again, from a Christian perspective, it takes the strength of the Lord to live the life of a Christian.

I agree that an unresponsive spouse is a frustrating situation, but adultery is adultery, whether its in the mind or the act. A man and wife are one flesh, and when he (or she) defiles himself, he's defiling her (as well as the rest of the Body as well as the recipient of the thought).

I'm not trying to sound "holier than thou" because I've been both a porn viewer (repentant & forgiven) as well as a broken-hearted spouse (who has also been forgiven).

If a man and a woman are "one flesh" often enough, porn is unnecessary and redundant. Women these days are saddled with the responsibilities of household, children, and now career. The women's "liberation" movement has created a group of harried, exhausted women. They are too tired for sex. Sexuality is dying as well. Women these days are also too tired in many cases to flirt, and too self-indulgent to bother. Not all of them, however, have decided to go the route of the feminists. Some of them still make time for their husbands. If you're a woman and your husband has a pornography habit that you would consider an addiction, simply ask why there is all of this unused sexuality in your husband. Why is it being wasted on porn? I'm tired of hearing from Christians about porn addiction. Every one I've ever seen complaining about it is an uptight matronly shrew. You know- no makeup, skirt down to the floor with cutesy collars up to the neck. If you're offended by this description, chances are it's you. Here's a newsflash: MEN HATE THAT. We hate ankle length skirts and Christmas sweaters with gingerbread men on them. Okay? We hate the lacy peter pan collars and nighties with buttons up to the collarbones. Hate them. We hate when your pretty long hair is bundled up as tight as a guitar string in a bun. We hate seeing you hang out in sweats WE could fit in. If porn is a problem, read Dr. Laura's book on the care and feeding of husbands. Chances are, with kids and career and college, something had to be put on the back burner and it was probably your husband. Stop griping about him and do something.
PS the book is hilarious. And sad too. Read it.

It is indeed an insidious trap. And the problem within many churches today it is not even discussed. And this is where some of the problem comes in. It's not considered by many to be a sin, much like a fib. However it is. And because it's so down the line, one doesn't realize how far it's gone until you have to finally just cry out to God because it's the end of the rope

Another site that covers this sin, among others, is Setting Captives Free. I think one has to finally decide if they are a friend to the world or a friend to God.

And from someone who's walked the road, I agree one hundred percent with you. It's not easy, but walking with Christ is much more satisfying than anything of this world