Well this is going to sound gruff again, but this is a public forum, and I wasn't thinking about my emotional feelings, just stating my opinion about an issue, that has far reaching consequences in our society.
Okay. I understand. But having (accidently) hurt this widow, I hope you now keep in the forefront of your mind that real people are behind those keyboards. You cannot always talk dispassionately about an issue, sometimes someone will be hurt by even the best reasoning, while they are in grief.
Consider it a learning experience. L-rd knows I've had my share.