[RosieCotton]

I'm gonna say this one more time.

Since I don't have any close friends or family who have gone through a divorce, I don't know whether or not the laws are fair.

But anyone who is afraid of marriage because they think they might get screwed in divorce court (if you pardon my language) should not be getting married. Period. Happy marriage requires mutual trust, and divorce should not be an option for spouses except in extreme circumstances.

I would never get married to someone who didn't really, truly feel the same way (not just SAY it...which means knowing a person well, and I can't believe it's really THAT hard), and neither should anyone else.

[FreedomAvatar]

Times change. People change.

I wasn't afraid to marry because I thought it would end in divorce. Most men don't go into marriage thinking that way. I thought I knew her well. Heck, we were married for 14 years and dating for 5 years before that.

She always said what you are saying: divorce is not an option. Then, her new boyfriend came along.

Times change. People change.

[IDontLikeToPayTaxes]

You seriously don't know whether or not the divorce laws are unfair? Allrighty, I assure you, the laws are unfair. Also, the divorce rate is 50%. These are facts.

Since those are the facts, who in their right mind would enter into something in which there is a 50-50 chance of their lives being destroyed?

Flip a coin, heads you win, tails you've lost everything.

Should a person buy a car in which there is a definate 50% probability that the transmission will fail? Would you?

Should a person invest in a stock in which there is a 50% chance they'll lose all of their money? Would you?

I can play this game all day and night.

However, the definate FACTS about marriage and divorce in the USA are that the divorce rate is approx. half, and that men are hosed in a divorce. Those are facts. :)