[cupcakes]

So what to do? The courts obviously need to change because women won't because it is a firm belief of mine that this stuff goes very deep and is beyond scorning a spouse. Women are fiercly protective AND possessive of their children. Even when they know children would do better adopted(in single mother situations) or in their father's care(in divorced situation), women will hold tight to the kids. I'm generalizing here of course and not referring to the sleazeballs that use the kids to manipulate dad or the mothers who really deserve the care of the kids over the fathers.

[Pan_Yans Wife]

I don't know how to change this.

I think, as a woman, I would rather DIE than lose custody of my children. I cannot imagine the pain that I would endure without them.

But, intellectually, I would KNOW they would be fine with their father. He loves them as much as I do, and truly does parent them equally. But, in a divorce situation, I could see the sparks fly and a battle ensue, because both of us would NEED the children.

Perhaps, as time passes, and more families experience the joy of parenting equally, the focus will shift. I truly believe that children need both parents. And, should I ever be in this situation, I would hope I remember how much he loves his children, and how much they love him.

Can't promise that, though... the jealousy would raise it's ugly head, I am certain!