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I appreciate what you say. But the children of mollesters have frequently had their boundaries violated and they are very vulnerable. They need very much to be loved but if you are a grown man and they are teenagers I would suggest you respect what may have happened to them and only hug or kiss them in a fatherly way around other people. As to cuddling, that seems to me to be inappropriate even for a father of a teenage girl. Same thing with mothers. I don't think people quite understand the concept of boundaries between adults and children and what happens to people when those boundaries are violated and especially by a trusted person who combines love and sexual excitation in the same act. People who have been mollested have grave difficulties in trusting, have the sense that they haven't been in control of their bodies or feelings and are very easily retraumatized by what seems like ordinary stuff to most of us. I am glad you love your nieces and all I am saying is be respectful of them and careful of yourself.