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To: sunryse
After watching my mother suffer with cancer, I am all in favor of Dr. Kavorkian.

:-(

Ya know....I had my Dad die suddenly at age 55 of a heart attack, he was dead on arrival to the hospital, a few minutes away. My, Mom died at 52, of cancer. 19 months of the "terminal" diagnosis.

What I have learned

...My Dad died an easy death, on the job, backing into a parking space and next second dead. He never considered that day would be his last. But...no good-byes, no sorry's, no thank-you's, no I love you for the last time. Many unanswered questions.

....My Mom died a harder death, she had to live with the knowledge that she was going to die soon. And everyone at work, in her neighborhood and family knew her days were limited. They all discussed her hair loss, her vomitting from the chemotherapy, her demise. But...she got the time to say her good-byes, her sorry's, her thank-you's and I love you for the very last time. As her daughter I had the honor of loving her through her most difficult days and to help bare her burden. What the last 24 hours of my mothers life yielded can never be measured. Every question thought of, answered.

We don't know or can we pick our final exit from this life. I see Terri's life hanging in the balance, and many of the "right to die" trying to exert control in an area that few of us have any control whatsoever.

However we go, may we go with the grace of God. For one thing is certain, today is the day of salvation.
Rom 13:11 And that, knowing the time, that now [it is] high time to awake out of sleep: for now [is] our salvation nearer than when we believed.

sunryse, killing someone in yours or their perceived time will never yield the full crop of their life, however devastating the circumstances are, God's timing is perfect! To actively participate in the ending of a humans life is never the answer. There are many hidden treasures amongst the thorny brush. Just because circumstances are downright tough doesn't mean we should avoid them.

107 posted on 11/03/2003 10:23:11 PM PST by 4Godsoloved..Hegave (Mat 25:35 For I was an hungred, and ye gave me meat: I was thirsty, and ye gave me drink:)
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To: 4Godsoloved..Hegave
How beautifully said! and so true.
142 posted on 11/04/2003 2:36:51 AM PST by Giddyupgo
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To: 4Godsoloved..Hegave
>sunryse, killing someone in yours or their perceived time >will never yield the full crop of their life, however >devastating the circumstances are, God's timing is >perfect! To actively participate in the ending of a >humans life is never the answer. There are many hidden >treasures amongst the thorny brush. Just because >circumstances are downright tough doesn't mean we should >avoid them.

You know, I am grateful, even through my mothers sickness that I got to say goodbye to her and my children did as well. I'm not saying as soon as terminal is diagnosed, hook up the killing IV. I'm saying the last three weeks of her life was spent mindlessly vomiting, hallucinating and emaciating away and she didn't even know her name. But yet she still had the agony of the cancer in her body. I'm talking about those last three weeks of hell which at the time felt like an eternity. I still have tears when typing this because I went from "please God, don't take my mother", to "Please God!!! Help her out of this misery!!! Why are you still allowing her to suffer!?" At that point, my desire to have her here wasn't as important to me as her moving on, which was inevtiable anyway. She DID starve to death. And I can't imagine taking a perfectly, albeit brain damaged woman and starving her because she is inconvenient. There is a big difference between wanting someone out of thier agony and killing them because "they wouldn't want to live like that".

Thank you though. I do hope you understand more what I mean now though. I don't want it to sound like I was pushing for my mom to die. To this day it is still the most horrific thing. She was my best friend and I was an only child. Our bond was amazing.
196 posted on 11/04/2003 10:10:43 AM PST by sunryse
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