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Well, truth be told, not fighting with people for a day or two is a good rule where ever you are, not just FR.
Pardon me for not knowing the societal structure of FR.COmIt COuld be, worse.
From www.motherflash.com:
Even today in one modern synagogue, there was always a dispute over whether to stand during the recitation of the Shema or to sit. One faction felt it was disrespectful to sit, and preferred to stand; one faction felt that standing was bad, and that all should sit. It was awful ... every time the rabbi would begin "Shema Yisroel," the congregation would erupt in disputes and argument.
The standees were trying to lift the sittees, and the sittees were trying to pull down the standees. Every Shabbat it was the same: Argue, argue, argue. So the congregation sent a delegation to the rabbi, consisting of both sittees and standees, "Rabbi, is it our tradition to sit during the Shema or stand during the Shema?"
The rabbi thought for a while and said, "I don't know. It's always been a point of contention for as long as I have been here."
So they went to the former rabbi and asked him: "Rabbi, during your tenure at our temple, was it the custom to stand during the Shema or sit during the Shema?" The rabbi thought for a long time, but he couldn't remember. "Let us ask the rabbi before me," he said.
So off they went, dug up the old rabbi in the nursing home, and asked him the question: "In our congregation, is it our tradition to stand during the Shema or sit during the Shema?"
The old rabbi thought for a long time. "It is not my recollection that our tradition was to sit during the Shema," he said finally.
The standees were exultant, but their delight was short-lived as the old rabbi lifted his hand in warning. "In my recollection, it was not our tradition to stand during the Shema."
And the sittees were exultant, but only for a moment. "But Rabbi, if it is not our tradition to sit, and it is not our tradition to stand, what is our tradition?"
The old rabbi thought for a while and then spoke. "It is our tradition to ARGUE..."
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