We were lucky that we went to a church where none of the other kids were being homeschooled, because we'd have never noticed the problem.
Did I mention what I began to notice about those kids who were "graduates"? The girls all aspired to become day care workers, but didn't like to wake up, the boys all aspired to be "internet entrepeneurs" and didn't like the notion of waking up and spending time learning any trade.
We were lucky that we went to a church where none of the other kids were being homeschooled, because we'd have never noticed the problem.
You don't specify what the "problem" is.
If YOUR daughter doesn't learn something that YOU didn't teach, then whose problem is it?
Part of the "whole homeschooling routine", IMO, is personal attention to teaching what you want her to learn.
By the way, the home school "graduates" that I know are doing great. They are attending college at a higher percentage than the public school kids. My son, who never attended any school before college, is currently a college junior with a GPA of 3.8. One of his home schooled friends started law school this fall. Another is a college senior in an engineering program. Don't judge all home schoolers by the few that you know.
I know I considered homeschooling my kids, but decided I wouldn't be the best teacher, so I sent my kids to private school. I am thinking, from your statements, that you weren't the right person to teach your kids. That doesn't mean other parents aren't. It's a decision each of us has to make. I have many friends who homeschool and their kids are doing great.