A 14 year old boy is highly sexualized by viewing gay porn on the internet let's say. He spots an 18 year old man, and offers to perform a sexual act on him. The 18 year old wrongly accepts the offer. His conscience gets the better of him and he goes to the police and admits to it. That is 17 years in jail.
A 18 year old man for weeks flashes a smile at a chaste 14 year old girl. He tells her that he loves her, but she replies that it is sinful to have unmarried sex. He psychologically batters her for weeks more, saying that he is her one true love, and that if she rejects his advances, she will lose him forever. He demands the same sexual act from her, oral sex. She complies, and as soon as it is completed, he laughs, and says thanks, and goodbye. She reports him to the police. He receives 15 months in jail. They go to jail today. The 18 year old guy who pressured the girl, gets out in September 2004, in time to watch all the new freshman girls enter the high school. The 18 year old gay man who allowed himself to be sodomized by the younger boy is in jail til June 2020.
If you believe justice was done there, your ideas of american jurisprudence and mine differ.