I have seen the recruiting process to my neighbors daughter, with my own eyes. Woo'ed by her community college basketball coach her first semester, as her mother and I watched helplessly. No advice or discouragement from us was wanted or heeded, she soon learned the word homophobic and used it often at us. At the age of eighteen she "loved this woman" even without a chance at a hetrosexual relationship!
Of course, when the woman dumped her for a new up and coming star on the court, she was devastated, but, we were sure the damage done. She applied to a college in Kansas, her parents moved away, and the last time I saw her, she and another girl were walking hand in hand in Kmart!!!!!!!
....sad, but true