In any case, I prefer to give the benefit of the doubt when I'm mostly in as right a mind as I get in.
And life is short enough, being kind is probably a greater priority than most of us imagine. I don't always keep it enough in mind.
Besides all that, if there's an honest, honrable way to gain a friend than intensify an enemy's outrage, I'd sure rather do the former. There are enough unearned enemies in the world as it is.
I understand your dismay. I'd rather focus on other priorities.