At any rate, my last bit of advice for you was to seek out other people who have gone through what you're going through now. Become familiar with the stages of grieving and recovery...become an expert in family law and prepare yourself to see the worst side of your wife once the child custody arrangements come into play. Most of this help can be found online. If you'd like me to post a few of the websites that I posted before, let me know. You are worthwhile and capable of wholeness with or without a partner. Many people find true happiness for the first time after divorce, when their buckets are not constantly being drained because the one they love keeps pulling the plug! Best wishes to you. And prayers.