I will now add to the list of things you don't understand about our position....
I understand your positions all too well!
The attempt to delve into the mind of God apart from what he has revealed in the Bible is work of 'dead orthodox' theologians who pass their philosophical speculations and theological implications from one generation to the next...Although sharply disagreeing among themselves, the theologians never fail to laud and extol one another while minimizing each other's shortcomings(The Other Side of Calvinism, Lawrence Vance, p.300-301)