Tell you what, I'll make up some lies about you, pass it on to a few FReepers, and ask them not to divulge the source.
You will call the rumour a lie, and you will be unable to prove that rumour wrong.
Nice!
A credible news reporter and law enforcement officer will not often risk their careers reporting "made up lies."
The neighbor under suspicion has also given statements on the Van Dams swinging and parties. Perhaps he is not as credible, as he is a suspect, but yet, that is another piece.
The Van Dams have not ONCE denied the allegations, only deflected the question, refused to answer the question, which indicates that it is most likely true. These type of anwers are given when the person does not want to speak a lie, but they also do not want to speak the truth.
Golightly is right. This is the proper forum for such speculation, pointing out discrepencies and the obvious. It is not a court of law here...but an exchange of ideas and opinions.