A) Please show me where I have done that, and
B) Please provide any sort of CONCRETE proof to the idea that their lifestyle contributed to the child's disappearance.
I understand being critical of the lifestyle, I don't understand trying to place blame on the parents based on that fact.
Simply the fact that they may have allowed strangers (I don't buy the strangers theory, from the swingers that I have known in my life, they don't allow strangers into their home) into their house would make anyone who has allowed service techs, movers, painters, wall paper hangers, delivery people, pest control techs, potential home buyers, sales people, etc, etc, etc. into their homes "bad" parents as well.