Of course she is hard and cold-looking. You are seeing your own image reflected back at you. On the other hand,a woman who is involved in mate-swapping is anything BUT "hard and cold".
I would think that it would take a touch of emotional detachment to be a swinger. Most of the women I have known in my life - friends, relatives, lovers - have closely tied sex to an emotional commitment. It is not hard to see that one who does feel that way, i.e. sex=emotional intimacy, would see someone who doesn't feel that way as "cold" emotionally. Since most women do associate sex with emotional intimacy, I would say that a women who is perceived as to not feel that way would be described as "cold."
Wonder if she has a drinking problem?
Meow! And what does this have to do with her daughter being kidnapped? You DO remember there is a missing child,right?
There is an expectation of parental responsibility on the part of society. If one has has a drinking problem that leads to spending hours away from her children and bringing intoxicated "drinking buddies" home at 2:00am, then this is very relavent to the daughter's disappearance. I also think that questioning whether or not someone who stays out until 2:00am at a bar has a drinking problem is a reasonable question.
This is all speculation, but if nothing else, it does seem to me to be a cautionary note for those who think that their "private lifestyles" don't effect their children. Most who are involved in these "lifestyles" are so blinded by them that they can't see the emotional devestation around them.
I have no doubt at all this is what they told you. I just don't believe it is the total truth. Women seem to like to have one "emotional" tie,but this doesn't keep them from having purely physical ones,either.