[Fraulein]

I would not be uncomfortable telling them about it when they were old enough to understand.

Please don't! I highly recommend that you never tell them about it. Most people would be horrifed to learn that as they were growing up their father had been sleeping with people other than their mother, and vice versa. They would probably be devastated, and I imagine that they would look back upon their childhood -- and your marriage -- in an entirely different way. Some things are better left unknown. Nothing good would come out of it. Nothing, that is, except problems for your kids...

[NYCVirago]

Please don't! I highly recommend that you never tell them about it. Most people would be horrifed to learn that as they were growing up their father had been sleeping with people other than their mother, and vice versa. They would probably be devastated, and I imagine that they would look back upon their childhood -- and your marriage -- in an entirely different way. Some things are better left unknown. Nothing good would come out of it. Nothing, that is, except problems for your kids...

Agreement bump!

[He Rides A White Horse]

Some things are better left unknown. Nothing good would come out of it. Nothing, that is, except problems for your kids...

He doesn't care. He would simply claim that his kids problems were 'incidental' to him being a swinger.