..remain faithful being married to a closed minded, judgemental, sanctimonious prig like yourself...
There's nothing wrong with being faithful and moral, nor judgmental (there's no e in judgmental btw), nor santimonious.
I hope you find the peace you are looking for, it's not spiritual, it's not in the bacchanalian orgies and s/m parties you are in for sure. You are on the other side. I'm not that religious, but I will say that the Lord wants you to stop being on the side that you are on, stop with the excesses. That's why we have the 10 commandments. Though shalt not covet thy neighbors wife. It's right there in the Bible. If these people had paid attention to their children this girl might still be alive, provided they weren't in on it.
I think what people are getting here at with you is that you have opened Pandora's box, you like it there, but it is not spiritually fulfilling there, and in this family's case it is not good. Maybe God is sending a message here that should be listened to. A moral message. You would be wise to heed it.
grlfrnd, that's the thing that bothers me the most. Anyone who would do the things these "parents" do, would not necessarily be above bringing their children into that "lifestyle." After all, if they believe in it with all their heart as EricOKC seems to, why wouldn't they think it in the "best interest of the child" to bring them into it, too? If I were the police, I'd sure be looking into that family, questioning everyone (that they know of) they've "brought home" for their little sex parties--could it be the daughter was part of the party, and someone got too rough?