[supercat]

If you wish it to be private then keep it that way and don't ask me to watch some flaming fruits swapping spit in front of my children while feeling each other up.

I wish that homosexuals that want to be lead their own sex lives discretely without harassment would recognize that Act Up et al. are no more their friends than are bigots who assault even homosexuals who try to be discrete.

BTW, there's a difference between being discrete and being totally secretive; I don't think the latter should be required, but unfortunately Act-Up et al. make it necessary to those who don't want to be associated with them.