Our responsibility is to share the Gospel message and to live in obedience to the Word of God. God, in His mercy and grace, provided a solution to the sin problem of man even while man did not deserve it. That is the grace of God! It is still the responsibility of those who hear the Gospel message to make a decision to accept the grace and mercy of God.
We are to plant the seeds of faith and not to worry about the harvest. As much as you may not want to hear it, and after reading several of your posts, you do not have a clear understanding of what Calvinism really teaches regarding pre-destination. It is much more harsh and cold-hearted than you may realize. On the other hand, it matters not what the extreme Calvinists teach, if you have accepted Christ as your Savior, the rest is mere detail.
I think you think it is much more cold hearted than it is :>) *grin*..God could have sent everyone of us to hell,He does not have to save any of us..this is His world we are His creation.