[IronJack]

Yep. THAT'S the real crime here. Women now have the same earning power as men, yet it is automatically assumed that the woman will get custody in a divorce, and that the man has to pay for the difference.

To stop this outrage, men need to be willing to shoulder the responsibility for their children. Demand that your attorney seek at least joint custody. Then, in most states, the only child support you can be assessed is an equitable division of the child's costs based on income.

As to alimony, that's simply the same fee hookers are paid, with the government acting as pimp.

[Vinnie]

As to alimony, that's simply the same fee hookers are paid, with the government acting as pimp.

Except you are paying them NOT to perform.(just like it was before the divorce:) )

[FITZ]

I can see what you suggest if the woman does maintain her career ---but what about those cases where the woman --by mutual agreement gives up a career to raise kids and the man changes his mind about being married when she's in her 40's. I've seen that happen too ---and the man figured the ex-wife should end up with nothing at all. I saw that with my sister-in-law, the husband found someone else and tried to keep the house and the kids because she couldn't afford anything because she had no job or resume. He wanted a stay-at-home wife before that point though.

[marajade]

Men can fight as to who gets custody...

[paul51]

Then, in most states, the only child support you can be assessed is an equitable division of the child's costs based on income.

Don't know what state you are talking about, but let me tell you my experience in CA. Divorced with infant children. Joint custody with me primary, kids live with me. Still, required to pay child support. She won't work, too lazy. I make money so the court in it's infinite wisdom thinks me taking care of her is better than her being on welfare. Think it sounds crazy? It is. Think I need a new lawyer? I have the best money can buy, that's why I get to live with my kids. The bottom line is, spend the rest of my time, energy and money fighting in court while both attorneys cash in or just pay her.