Well, seeing what this crazy female put my ex-boyfriend and the kid through, I don't think there's much good about it. It's still hard to understand why men don't see through that kind of female more quickly. I thought she was a nightmare from the first time I met her. Too crazy even to go to the market to buy food for her own kid.
At 42 I've never been married - and listening to these anecdotes reminds me why. It seems that when things go sour in a marriage - all the legal and societal weapons are with the woman - and the man is completely "fugued".
I'm a 48-year-old woman who has never been married. I've also seen some women who get "fugued."
I agree that if a man and a woman voluntarily agree that the woman is to be a stay-at-home mom, and she gives up an outside career for that, she does deserve some help in getting back on her feet. You don't just dump someone out there without any job skills.
With one friend of mine, she was a SAHM with her last kid still an infant. Hubby dumped her for a bowling-alley bimbo. She went on welfare, learning to be a secretary, so that she could put hamburger meat on the table for the kids. She eventually was able to get a job and make ends meet, but it was a rough time. I don't think her ex-husband helped out much if at all. He didn't want the responsibility of a big family... but he went on to have more kids with the bimbo.
But, as a strong believer in voting with your feet - and the advice from the Guess Who - I've been looking at other places around the world to be married. Although, this route definitely has some serious drawbacks of its own.
I am not enthusiastic about that route, from what I have heard, but then most women don't look for mates that way. I'm really tall, and don't have any inclination to find a husband from the Third World, unlike some American men who apparently find it just charming.
There is, however, at least one introduction agency which helps British men find foreign wives... quite a few of them come here to find American wives. The British welfare system gives many of their women few incentives to marry, so the British men look abroad (primarily at French and American women). So I figure we can't be all bad. But I'm not all that tempted to hire someone to find me a husband.
interesting that u say that........ I guess alot of nations could be classified as third world when compared to the US (in economic terms at least), but heres some interesting facts..... i can't remember the correct figures but the divorce rates in the US, Australia, Britain and a few other Western nations were a hell-of-alot higher then the "third world" nations, in some cases almost double..... maybe having nothing (economically) makes these people realise that money aint everything.... the people around you are...........
Now since im from a country that could be classified as third world (well my parents are anyway, but they brought their way of life with them, and passed it on to me), i can tell u that their tends to be more of a family bond in these "third world" families than in most western families (please excuse the classifications, i can't think of a better way)..... this is what i believe contributes to the lower divorce rates in non-western nations.......... There just seems to be a greater sense of "community" in these "third world" people.......
i may be wrong but this is what i've seen with my own two eyes so, thats all i can really base this on.....