I work with a woman whose husband left her and the two kids for someone who "paid more attention to him." The husband also works where the wife and I work (interesting situation, and I try not to take sides). He resents paying anything toward the support of the family he abandoned.
OTOH, my son-in-law has paid for years and years to the child support mess in California. His wife left him and took the kids. California charges interest on child support. Now that the kids are 18, he is finally out from under it.
There is no fair solution to these dilemmas, except to return to the obligations of husband and wife, and the duty to their children as outlined in the Bible, the original owner's manual.
Carolyn
Of course there is. Remove the carrot that bribes women to divorce: certain custody of the kids and everything that comes with that (the house, child support, etc.)