Gentlemen, women are not some strange, incomprehensible life-form that exists only to hurt, deceive, and exploit you. They're human beings like you, and like you they're lonely and looking for love. If some woman dumped you and broke your heart, there are several possible explanations. One is that she was simply a rotten bitch. A more likely explanation is that she is a good person who simply realized something you didn't, which is that you and she are not right for each other. A third is that she is a good person who made a mistake and didn't realize that you and she are absolutely perfect for one another.
Ladies, men are not some strange, incomprehensible life-form that exists only to hurt, deceive, and exploit you. They're human beings like you, and like you they're lonely and looking for love. If some man dumped you and broke your heart, there are several possible explanations. One is that he was simply a rotten bastard. A more likely explanation is that he is a good person who simply realized something you didn't, which is that you and he are not right for each other. A third is that he is a good person who made a mistake and didn't realize that you and he are absolutely perfect for one another.
There are lots of wonderful people of the opposite sex out there--literally billions of them. There are two ways you can respond to this fact. You can go looking for one, and make yourself into the best version of yourself you can so that you'll be desirable to him or her. Or you can immerse yourself in miserable lonely onanism for the rest of your embittered life. Which course seems preferable?
There are lots of truly wonderful single or divorced people out there, longing for love. If there are problems between the genders (I've come to believe) it's mostly due to bad communication and inappropriate, earth-bound expectations on both sides. Still, those things are readily fixable.
Good luck to all of us!
IMHO, in too many cases the women start out thinking the men are going to change, and the men start out thinking the women aren't going to change, and they both end up disappointed.