I believe most women who have had abortions do go through a grieving process; some of them never get it resolved and they end up in very, very serious trouble emotionally and end up in treatment centers. Then the treatment centers don't have the tools to help them deal with their grief and guilt. "Talking it out" is about all that is permitted and talking it out is usually insufficient.
The grief and guilt are real and must usually be dealt with spiritually. Even then, it takes a long process of "penance" before grief/guilt are assuaged and the person can resume living again on a healthy psychic level.
Just my humble opinion; I'm no professional and it is just as well. Professionals never "cured" anybody. Period. They can help in the process but they are really powerless and their pride gets in the way, often exacerbating the therapy.
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