My husband says I'm beautiful... but for a long time I felt insecure because-- yeah, he thought it was ok like most guys, to indulge those eyes. (And I never knew about it, but I still felt the effects on his attitude.) In the past year or so we have been working on this, and he finally realizes how it cheats me and hurts me deeply, and I have never felt more secure and loved than I do now. There are benefits, guys, to making sure your wife feels secure and loved and as if she is the only beautiful woman in the world to you. GET IT??? ;-)
Don't get me wrong, my husband is not a sleazy guy... he's just normal in that, and learning to get over it. heh. He's a gem in everything else though. Well, he's a little airheaded... but...
Nothing personal, but it sounds to me as if you merely transferred, to your husband, the inadequacies you felt about your own attractiveness. In other words, you made your problem his problem by focusing on his behavior (quite natural, by the way) rather than your reaction to it.He happens to look at another woman and you feel cheated? Good God, Terriergal, unless your husband's eyes were popping out of his skull like a Tex Avery cartoon every time a dolled-up tart walked down the street, you've set the "cheating" bar pretty damn low. Unrealistically low.