In the case of fundamentalist religions oppressing women, I'll certainly agree that not everyone who says they are being oppressed are. But in the case of someone who has been unjustly burdened because of their sex, and who because of their sex has no redress through the community, I think "victimology" is misapplied.
Of course, we're talking generalities here. I imagine we might find more common ground over specific instances.
Incidentally, Utah Girl, I want to say thanks. It's getting rarer and rarer on this board to find someone willing to discuss things instead of just using the forum as an excuse to scream.