Depends on how one "reminds" oneself. Let me ask you -- which do you think is more helpful -- to remember the life, the LIFE that was lost, and swear never to let another one be lost, or to "remember" (I say that means is all effect "to gawk and leer like some carny sideshow") the most gruesome moments of dying. How do YOU want to be remembered -- for your LIFE, or for the strangeness or gruesomness of your death?
Are you some junkyard dog you has to be motivated by fear of the whip, or are you a *man* who knows Duty.