Posted on 08/30/2013 11:47:16 AM PDT by NYer
1. Don’t have sex until you are married!
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I would add...EVERYTHING you see on TV & popular media is for the purpose of promoting promiscuity and a general loosening of standards. The Miley Cyrus thing could indeed be quite a teachable moment.
I would guess most kids are getting sex ed from MTV.
Just watch a Mylie Cyrus video on what not to do.
A really pointless article unless your kids are in Parochial School or are home schooled because by third grade the public school system will have taught the children everything you know plus all the perverse acts you don’t.
I’m sure tweens these days could teach their parents a lot about sex. But does anyone really want that?
If you're waiting until your child is a "tween" to teach modesty, that ship has long since sailed. Modesty needs to be taught during their entire childhood.
I was just sick and incommunicado and just about throwing up after seeing mileylicentious performance — thinking about the influence it would have on kids. But then I read MTV has had even worse stuff. And there is the possibility that the “performance” — in the same sense of performance as a drunk coed somewhere — was so over-the-top it will actually have the opposite effect (from intended) on many kids.
Everything in this advice is wrong. It doesn’t even mention twerking, a mainstay of the courting ritual for centuries.
Nowadays, shouldn’t the parent check with the kid first to see if he might like a bra, or she might go for shaving supplies instead? Just sayin....
“Son, it’s time you and I had a man-to-man talk about the facts of life.”
“Sure, Dad, what do you want to know?”
I have an eleven year old. If I just barely hint about talking sex and HE cringes.
I’m going to put if off for at least another 6 months because he’s not even close enough to be comfortable about it, yet.
That’s the way I did it. You don’t need to give your child lectures, just use teachable moments. If you live it, you’ll need to do very little actual lecturing.
Miley Cyrus is a great conversation opener, maybe with, “What is Miley doing that would make a woman like that someone you want to trust?” Once the heart and spirit is right, the physical ideas follow easily. My son just married a wonderful, godly woman who is a true helpmate.
#11. Herpes are FOREVER
My kids are almost 19 and almost 17. They are pretty open about sex with me. My son told me about how one of his friends went “crazy” after she had sex with her boyfriend. He says she wasn’t ready.
My girls talk about what other girls wear and the image it projects.
Also, their aunt had a baby at 16. Her life is very different than our life.
None of them have had a boyfriend/girlfriend yet.
We also talk about the whole gay thing. We live in California and my kids have all done theater, so they are exposed to that a lot. Several kids in our old church have come out as gay. I’ve told them you can disagree with somene’s lifestyle choices and still love them and be kind to them.
My kids seem to want to talk about it. They have lots of questions, and I think they feel safe talking to me about it. They don’t talk to their dad as much.
I appreciate your comment. I don’t have children but I can absolutely appreciate the idea that if you give them spaces of responsibility to grow into, they will. If you give them a pit of admonition to experience, they will likewise adapt to that.
When ever I talked to my kids about sex when the time came, I always prefaced it with, “When you’re married...”
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