[Peach]

I hope you don't have a daughter who ever goes to a hotel room with the intention of kissing and it ends in violence.

Poor judgment, yes. But I don't know anybody who was that young who didn't exhibit poor judgment at one time or another.

[najida]

The older I get, the more stories I hear from other women very similar to this...

They know they did something really stupid (get in a car, open a door, accept an invitation inside). But they were raped. Sad thing, they were too embarrassed by their own actions to press charges against the guy for his actions.

[mountaineer]

No, I don't have a daughter. I am female, however, and I agree with you that young women frequently exhibit poor judgment, e.g., putting themselves in situations where there's a strong likelihood something like this is going to happen. I've read a lot of court files of rape cases where the girl accepted a ride from a stranger, for example, and ended up sexually assaulted.

It's just common sense, though (perhaps something this girl was lacking), that you shouldn't be surprised when you flirt with a married pro athlete and then go to his hotel room for some "consensual" sexual activity (short of intercourse, presumably) and things get out of hand. If Kobe forced her to do anything she didn't want to do, I'm certainly not saying her lack of judgment excuses him.