Let's see:
"a husband is expected to work" - and this is saying that a wife's day isn't spent working. Many women work outside the home, many women work, i.e. take care of children and the home, many women work from their home, take care of the kid and homeschool too (I am in the latter group).
"visit relatives they don't like" - so the husband doesn't like the wife's relatives, but the wife always likes the husband's relatives? In my case the mother-in-law lives with us and I am the primary caregiver, since the husband is off at work (lucky him).
"wives put out on demand"-if you mean "provide a body" for the husband to have sex with, we'll then I have no issues. But if you mean that the wife shows up mentally, physically, and emotionally for an intimate encounter with her husband, then it's not going to happen on demand.
Luckily my husband prefers that all of me (mind, body, and emotions) shows up for sex, and therefore doesn't demand.
With kids, jobs, in-laws, etc. intimacy takes planning, but we have a long standing marriage and a genuine "like" of each other, as well as love with each other.
And you sound like a very fine woman as well.
That counts for a lot.