[Stultis]

My first question would be: is an order not to marry someone lawful?

It was when I was in the Airforce ('82-'86). Even stateside (I never went overseas) you had to get premission. It was almost never denied, mind you, but in theory it could be.

[anguish]

Geez. I would've thought that it was up to each person to decide to whom they'd get married. I'd refuse to ask for permission from anyone. Well, except the bride that is :)