It's not easy but it can be done. Eating less and more exercise. Yes, it can be done, despite the protestations that will come from many who read this. But stay away from the fad diets like the low-fat ones. Just cut the junk out of your diet and eat plenty of natural foods like meat, fish, vegetables, berries, cheese, nuts and olive oil. And exercise, exercise, exercise.
What's Eating Gilbert Grape is a great movie. A cult classic. That movie deals with a woman who is similarly obese. Not an easy way to live. You can have sympathy for her but your sympathy will not help her. In fact, it will likely encourage her to make no positive changes in her life.
When I started climbing towards 300 pounds and losing all my energy, I had people starting to joke about me getting so fat. It definitely was a motivating factor in me reversing the trend and now I am giving many of them a hard time (in a good natured way) because I am now slimmer than most of them! And getting slimmer still.
We do not have both sides of the story here. It could be that the family did not want to pay for a special order casket and the funeral home was doing their best to accomodate them with the largest casket they had in stock. We just do not know and we should not jump to the conclusion that the funeral home was being inconsiderate or unprofessional. They could have been in a no-win situation with this. We're talking 500 pounds of woman here!
I was helping the youngest brother Chris roof his house and a neighbor came over and told him; "Tell your 'little' brothers to come down for a minute, I need to talk to him 'bout sumething." It was a shock to him and he made changes after that jump started his thinking process.
I have never smoked, haven't drunk in 14 years - not that I drank much when I was trying to fit in and be social in the Army, mind you - and weigh much less then Chris.
I was amused, but he wasn't, and he lost the pregnant male look with a little motivation. Part of which was sibling rivalry.
People don't often fully realize that there is cronological aging, and there is aging that comes from environment and bad habits.
Death of the body is inevitable; but for cripes sake there is no reason to invite it early, or to be so infirmed from your abuses of it you don't enjoy life.
My mother died April First of cancer and weighted next to nothing from it. She tried to go three rounds with chemo and fought tenaciously for life.
She had worked hard all her life and died two years after retiring. She neve got to enjoy fully the sunset years like she dreamed she would. She smoked two packs a day religiously from her mid teens until she was at death's door - sneaking in a puff when she could get away with it.
Food, booze, nicotine, or whatever; is it really worth the price the abuse of those things exact on people and those they love? No way.
Good luck getting to your goal weight, and my congradulations for being strong enough to beat the worst part of your nature that was doing you in by inches.
The woman in this story obviously lacked role models, or people who could have given her the sort of introspective insight it takes to get up and fight to stay among the living as long as she could.
That is the saddest part of this story. The too small coffin is only a footnote to it.