[Quix]

Sorry, I've looked back at the ref message and am still not precisely clear about your meaning.

Being a perfectionist in sexual expectations of your partner can be a real turn off. Especially if one is not skillful enough to shape the behavior gradually over a long time period with lots of praise.

[Vigilantcitizen]

"Sorry, I've looked back at the ref message and am still not precisely clear about your meaning."

"Being a perfectionist in sexual expectations of your partner can be a real turn off. Especially if one is not skillful enough to shape the behavior gradually over a long time period with lots of praise."

I'm not a perfectionist in expectations of my partner, maybe I phrased that wrong. I am a perfectionist in the sense that I strive to make sure my partner is enjoying things just as much or more than I.