[ChemistCat]

Meaning no disrespect here, but nothing you've said has anything to do with low sex drive in married males.

You're saying that as a single guy you can't find a quiet girl who will let you get laid cheaply enough. Or at least that's how I and my husband are reading what you said. Are we misinterpreting you?

We women do talk with each other--that's part of who we are. It's part of how we process information about our relationships. (I am not sure most guys actually process information about their relationships--they just stumble through and land in good ones or bad ones by chance.)

So if you're expecting ladies not to talk about you, you are expecting something that never was and never will be. Especially if you refuse to pay for dinner!

[maui_hawaii]

You're saying that as a single guy you can't find a quiet girl who will let you get laid cheaply enough. Or at least that's how I and my husband are reading what you said. Are we misinterpreting you?

Well, yeah, you are misinterpreting.

If I had my way it wouldn't be that much about getting laid at all. Never mind "cheaply"...

I want a girl who is going to be friends with me.

Now, lets define friends.

For me, with the guys, I will buy them all dinner. Its no thing.

Next time around they are inviting me over to watch the game...

When its done right friendship isn't about money at all. We will have fun eating McDonalds. Its about having a personality match and someone who acts like a friend. You could tell them what you are thinking and thats as far as it goes...

Being trustworthy and dependable is huge.

How does that relate to sex in marriage? In my opinion the relationship is about all the other stuff other than sex. Once the other stuff gets sorted out the sex part won't be that big of an issue.

[maui_hawaii]

Meaning no disrespect here, but nothing you've said has anything to do with low sex drive in married males. The whole thing is exactly related to sex drive.

If you've gotten burned, can't trust your partner, or had your feelings hurt... then you say its not related to sex?

Thats absolutely related to sex.

Its not just the sheer physiology of it.

The state of the mind relates directly to the state of the body.

[sweetliberty]

"So if you're expecting ladies not to talk about you, you are expecting something that never was and never will be. Especially if you refuse to pay for dinner!"

ROTFL! Isn't that the truth?