To: sweetliberty
You thought we could "spice it up" *L* well, spice may not be what is needed.
My late husband had no sex drive at all the last few years of his life. It is one of the effects of diabetes. One he never thought would actually happen to him. It did. Let me remind any diabetic men here to TAKE CARE OF YOURSELVES - it is your obligation as a husband. It can and will happen to you, too.
It is devastating - to the woman moreso than the man, I think, because his appetite is just gone along with the ability. If I marry again and ever find myself in a sibling type relationship with my husband, I am divorcing him. That is not marriage.
To: ValerieUSA
A marriage without intimacy is no marriage - I agree...
178 posted on
09/26/2003 4:16:28 PM PDT by
Chad Fairbanks
(I like my women like I like my coffee - Hot, and in a big cup.)
To: ValerieUSA
Ouch Val, ouch.
DD thread bar is open, shoulder on up to it if you feel like.
180 posted on
09/26/2003 4:17:09 PM PDT by
Darksheare
(I will not _____the Dems. I will not_____the Dems. I will not _____the Dems. I will not_____the Dems)
To: ValerieUSA
Why does the sex drive decrease in diabetics?
192 posted on
09/26/2003 4:25:09 PM PDT by
Pan_Yans Wife
("Life isn't fair. It's fairer than death, is all.")
To: ValerieUSA
"If I marry again and ever find myself in a sibling type relationship with my husband, I am divorcing him. That is not marriage."
Valerie, I'm so sad to hear that. It must be incredibly difficult. :( No, spouses are not meant to be siblings.
I hope things get better for you at some point.
To: ValerieUSA
It must have been very difficult for you. I honestly cannot imagine it and I'm sure if I had been in that kind of situation I would have taken it very personally whether it was "reasonable" to do so or not. Despite the problems in my marriage, there was never a time when my husband wasn't all over me and I wouldn't consider marrying again if I didn't believe that marriage came with the promise of a healthy sex life. I realize that isn't all there is, but physical intimacy certainly is important and goes a long way toward forging and keeping the bonds in the relationship strong. Besides, an awful lot of a woman's self-confidence is tied up in her sense of desirability. I think that even if the problem is a biological one, it would be next to impossible not to translate it, psychologically and emotionally, as something WE should be able to "fix".
275 posted on
09/26/2003 5:25:35 PM PDT by
sweetliberty
("Having the right to do a thing is not at all the same thing as being right in doing it.")
To: ValerieUSA
that's very sad...I'm sorry.
312 posted on
09/26/2003 5:53:04 PM PDT by
wardaddy
(The Lizard King it was.....)
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