[okkev68]

You obviously didn't read the post. The key word was "tend" not all. Your situation is very unfortunate but it is also the exception. Talk to any marriage counselor and they will tell you that "most" of the time when a man loses interest in the spouse he has become "interested" in something else.

I do hope things improve for you and your husband and his health stays good. But you guys might want to consider talking to a pastor or church counselor if you haven't already. From your post I sense some frustration.

[dfrussell]

Talk to any marriage counselor and they will tell you that "most" of the time when a man loses interest in the spouse he has become "interested" in something else.

Agreed.

However, you might want to ask yourself the obvious question of *WHY* he was interested in something else....

I suspect she was on to something when she wondered what was wrong with her.

In general, males are more interested in sex than are women. Look at viagra sales.

That said, a viagra the size of a hocky puck couldn't make most guys rise for an Andrea Dworkin etc.

Women can fake it. Men can't. If a guy says he's not interested in sex, odds are he's lying about it or neglected to vocalize the "with you."

And, yeah, they guy might have not been anything to talk about either, so don't start.....