Sex-Starved Marriages - Women Struggle to Cope With Spouses' Low Sex Drives

ABC News ^ | 09/26/03 | John Stossel

[cajungirl]

LOL,,funny post!

[CyberCowboy777]

Ping

[Zipporah]

" Women being taught that to be femenine is wrong."

YOU ARE SO WRONG!

[cpprfld]

I realize that no one is perfect, but it is kinda difficult to get excited about your spouse if she/he weights 300 lbs. and does absolutely nothing to change their appearance.

[Major_Risktaker]

The answer is....

[Sir Gawain]

What's wrong with playing video games?

[Frank_Discussion]

ohmagawd!! ROFLMAO!!!

[Digger]

An elderly couple, Sam and Bessie, are "snowbirds" in Arizona. Sam always wanted a pair of authentic cowboy boots. Seeing some on sale one day, he buys them, wears them home, walking proudly. He walks into the house and says to his wife, "Notice anything different about me?" Bessie looks him over, "Nope."
Frustrated Sam storms off into the bathroom, undresses, and walks back into the room completely naked except for the boots. Again he asks, a little louder this time, "Notice anything different NOW?" Bessie looks up and says, "Sam, what's different? It's hanging down today, it was hanging down yesterday, and it'll be hanging down again tomorrow." Furious, Sam yells, "AND DO YOU KNOW WHY IT'S HANGING DOWN BESSIE?! IT'S HANGING DOWN BECAUSE IT'S LOOKING AT MY NEW BOOTS!"
To which Bessie replies, "Shoulda bought a hat Sam... ya shoulda bought a hat."

[Plutarch]

The Problem:

The Low Testosterone Syndrome

As is shown in Figure 1, nearly half of healthy males over 50 years of age have testosterone levels less than those seen in normal young males.1 >p>
Figure 1

Statistical studies have suggested the following effects may be associated with decline in testosterone:

Decreased libido (enthusiasm for sex, sexual thoughts, etc.)2
Decreased muscle mass
Decreased memory
Increased heart disease

The cure:

[RandallFlagg]

The fellas I know who aren't "getting busy" on the home front usually have someone on the side. Someone who is younger, firmer & less whiney then what's at home.

I knew folks like that as well (Back when my Wife would let me out of the house). I'm in the same boat and can honestly say that I have successfully resisted temptation for years **stands tall**

[MotleyGirl70]

LOL!

[petitfour]

Sheesh. The woman in the first couple is a STRIPPER. She goes to work and strips for other men to see her nakey. They met that way. Is there not something wrong here???????????????

I think the folks at ABC are crazy for airing at least half of this report. Next they'll be doing a report on lesbian couples that have lost their lesbian desires.

[TRY ONE]

"And the two couples names are Barrett and Cummings? ROFL"

Yep, Grin and Barrett and I'mmmmm Cummmmmings (NOT)!

[lawdave]

Chris's fear of having sex with Suzan is pretty ironic since she works as an exotic dancer. She performs at a strip club, where men pay big bucks to watch women strut around in sexual ways. Suzan is one of the star attractions — lots of men come to the club just to see her. At one time Chris was one of them. That's how they met.

It seems to me this guy may have some deep seated anger problems with his wife based on her occupation. After all it might be hard to take knowing that your wife is "shaking her money maker" in strange guys faces every night. How does he know she isn't doing more? A stripper is not my idea of a paragon of fidelity.

[tiamat]

Zipporah wrote:

" Women being taught that to be femenine is wrong."

YOU ARE SO WRONG!

************************************************ I am a little older

When I was younger, I got all kinds of crap from people because what I most wantd to do was be a wife and a mom, and because I LIKE men and am not a ball-buster.

Silly me. I enjoyed cooking and making a home!

My yuppie Sister in Law teaches her adopted daughter that men are all scum and potential rapists. ,br> Kid gets her back though... loves playing with dolls and doing "dress-up".

Tia

[okkev68]

I agree. Although, I'm sure there are few men out there who just aren't interested in sex.

My wife has had several women complain to her about their husbands low sex drive and in every occasion the husband was a porn addict. Also, from my involvment in church groups and men's groups I have seen the same thing over and over again.

The bottom line is that women withold sex to control while men withold because they are "getting it somewhere else".

[ravingnutter]

In my experience men who do not have sex with their wives tend to be alcoholics, mastubators and users of porn.

Then you don't have much experience, physical and emotional problems can also affect the sex drive. Hubby and I went without for years after he had renal surgery for cancer, we tried Viagra, but there were bad side effects. Right now he is dealing with his mother who has been ill for a long time and might die any day now, so I don't push the issue.

As for the poster below that said this guy was a loser for playing video games, that's another way off the mark comment. My 49 y/o husband plays sports video games every night...he does it to unwind from a hard day's work as a foreman on a construction job.

As for the ones that want to blame the women...I can't post what I think of that without getting slapped by the mods, especially the one who said his wife was too fat to be attractive anymore. If you married her just for her looks, I feel sorry for HER.

Don't expect another reply from me on this thread, the majority of the comments I have seen on here make me ashamed to even associate with you people. I came on this thread because I thought that I could discuss the issue with intelligent adults that have the same problem. Good grief, was I ever wrong. I'll just stick to the political threads from now on.

[L,TOWM]

Just earned this thread a bookmark...

[sweetliberty]

Ping! Thought y'all could spice up the thread.

[AngryJawa]

And the REAL test of manhood is accepting all of the above with humor and without whining or self pity.

I agree with everything lodwick listed too. But "accepting all of the above with humor..." can also be construed as "bending over and taking it". Some uphill battles HAVE to be fought. Surrendering to destructive double standards is exactly what's gotten "the American male" in this pickle.