~Saying good bye~

CookingWithCarlo.com ^ | Sept 23, 2003 | Carlo3b Dad, Chef, Author

[xJones]

What would you suggest to someone who has had so much loss in their lives that they have turned mean and bitter?

Just tell 'em that they'll have the world's shortest and most unlamented funeral when their time comes.

The only way to get out of your own misery is to reach out to others. That's not cold advice, that's the best. Get involved in your local volunteer programs, sports groups, and yes, even a church. It's called pulling yourself up when you've been smacked so hard you can't see straight. There's always something you can give, no matter how trivial it may look at the time, and in doing so you can forget about your own all-too-real miseries for a while.

Best regards

[hoosiermama]

Beautifully written. Thanks for sharing.
Need a hug? Here take one of mine ......((((hug)))))

[Lijahsbubbe]

To everything there is a season. Sometimes even the end of a season, while not as extreme as the loss of a loved one, can trigger sadness.

When my children were younger, they had a wonderful recreation center to go to, for organized sports, or to just hang out.

Our city decided every recreation center should rotate its' employees, which meant the loss of a couple of great men at our recreation center who had been there for at least 10 years.

These men knew every child by name, and which child was trouble. They were our neighborhood connection. Their office belonged to the children and the children loved it, and them.

When we knew we were losing them, despite petitions, I knew it was the end of a season in life, and I felt alot of sadness.

We brought cakes and cards and took pictures. The rec center has never been the same.

I am thankful for these men who touched many lives, sad that they had to leave.

For all of you who show kindness and live a giving life, believe me, it is noticed.

[carlo3b]

Just for you and Tom.. I hope both of you enjoy it...

Blackened Red Snapper

• 1 tablespoon paprika
• 1 teaspoon cayenne pepper
• 3/4 teaspoon ground white pepper
• 3/4 teaspoon ground black pepper
• 1-1/2 teaspoons salt
• 1 teaspoon onion powder
• 1 teaspoon garlic powder
• 1/8 teaspoon dried thyme
• 1/2 teaspoon dried oregano
• 2 (6 ounce) fillets red snapper
• 3/4 cup butter, melted

1) In a small bowl, mix together paprika, cayenne pepper, white pepper, black pepper, salt, onion powder, garlic powder, thyme, and oregano.
2) Heat a large cast iron skillet over high heat for 10 minutes, or until extremely hot.
3) Dip fish into melted butter, and sprinkle each fillet generously with the seasoning mixture. Place the fish fillets in the hot skillet. Pour 1 tablespoon of butter over each fillet. Cook until the coating on the underside of the fillet turns black, 3 to 5 minutes. Turn the fish over. Pour another tablespoon of butter over the fish, and cook for 2 minutes, or until fish flakes easily with a fork.
 
 
 

[tubebender]

I don't know how I will react to the loss of a close loved one. I had not lived near my Mother and Father for years and was raising my family and it wasn't unexpected when they passed away at 85.

We have two grown children and they are very dear to us and my daughter and hubby have a 19 year old daughter and a 15 year old son and the loss of those two would destroy me for sure but I pray that at age 70 I will never have to face that moment...

[jokar]

What I could tell you about love.
Then ones I fought for and lost. They absolutely would not reconsider.
And then . . . The love of my life my perfect companion. Who scolds me for picking on the man she loves.
It will come Carlo, but you have to release the currant love to the ages. That's the bummer part, you are going to have to grieve and feel abandoned. There aint't no way around it.
Go ahead and curse God he can take it he has broad shoulders.
But in life we have our darkness's then the glorious dawn. I hope you find your right woman soon.

[carlo3b]

Sometime I have to remind myself what is important.. When the past comes back and gets you squishy, it's good to share.. Thanks for being here..

[carlo3b]

Bless you.. it's good to have FRiends.. :)

[carlo3b]

DUDE! I'm here, too.

Thank you my friend.. it's good to know...

[carlo3b]

There are moments when speech is but a mouth pressed Lightly and humbly against the angel's hand.

Wow.. That man has heart.. Thank you

[f.Christian]

Did you ever see the movie ... Three Warriors (( howz yur bones )) --- my very favorite movie ?

The last time I saw it I noticed the Indian star chief says ... the 1st and last thing we learn --- good bye !

[carlo3b]

Thank you my dear girl.. Healing takes time... friends help it along..

[fatima]

carlo3b,I have everything but the Snapper-What wine,I will cook this and I will get back to you.carlo3b,I love you.

[carlo3b]

What a beautiful story.. It's remarkable how cruel that administration could be.. they had kids and parents involved and it couldn't change their damned self made rules.. Thank you

[shaggy eel]

"Fear is that little darkroom where negatives are developed."

,,, now, that's a good one! Thanx for posting it.

[Palladin]

Thank you, Carlo.

You can't imagine how much I needed that beautiful essay of yours tonight.

I just received word that my youngest sister has been diagnosed with advanced inoperable lung cancer. She has just a few months to live.

I am in shock, still trying to absorb the shock and the pain.

Your words have helped more than you will ever know.

[carlo3b]

Thanks ..I know.. dumb stuff..huh?.. yuck.. thanks for enduring.. :)

[4mycountry]

[MasonGal]

We're here for you, Carlo!!

About 4 years ago when I was dealing with the loss of someone very close to me - my freeper friends (my freeper FAMILY) was definitely here for me. Their thoughts and prayers were so important - and helped me so much through it all.

Bless you.

[carlo3b]

White Zinfandel, they are just sweet enough to offset the heavy spices, and refresh your pallet... easy to find, and inexpensive.. Use any firm mild flavored fish if Snapper isn't available..