You description of dress reminds of the shock I got when my son came home from college in need of a haircut and with a mustache!When my brother let his hair grow in the 70's, I just said to our dad, "Bet you're not man enough to make him cut his hair."
My brother had to pass dad's "inspection" before he gave my brother the money to pay the barber. He got two more trims.
To tell you the truth my son had been such a straight arrow,I wasn't really concerned..He was in college and he stayed out of trouble!He never got as far as girly locks.