The same is true about any criticism of Jews or Israel. The counterclaim is "antisemitism." This is meant to be an absolute defense and puts the orgininal speaker on the defensive.
Today, we have faggitude. Any criticism, real or imagined, of fairies is met with "homophobia" (whatever that means) and shifts the defense to the original speaker. Thus, a suggestion that homosexuality is either a genetic disease or a behavioal disorder is met with "homophobia!" and the burden shifts to the original speaker to prove that not only is he not "homophobic" but that he is pro-tinkerbell.
As I've asked many times, where do the fairies get this clout? They are deviants and perverts and must recruit new members from the ranks of the normal people. We must start using the words "normalphobia" and "normalphobic" to refer to these fairy hissyfits.
From the laws they've managed to create, beginning with obtaining "minority status". From gay-friendly Courts with homo judges, and from infiltrating the news media, thus making themselves appear to be a much larger group than they actually are. And finally, from infiltrating the public schools, (we have two homosexual pervert principals in our school system), and the Churches. When Christian Churches preach "tolerance" of perverts from the pulpit, it makes it hard for good Christians to fight this filthy debauchery. So the answer to your question lies in one word: "infiltration"
In a corrupt society that embraces this immoral filth, it's hard to combat it. A great place to start would be for our doctors and researchers to get down off their liberal pedestals and admit that homosexuals are spreading AIDS and HIV around our country by infecting each other with impunity, and then some of the bisexual perverts amongst them spread it to women. Everyone says "I don't care what they do in private", but if what they do in private endangers our whole society they would change their tune.
I agree with your confusion, and find it a source of constant amusement that the libs have built up a whole concept and framework of debate based on a malaprop. Because if we look at the definitions:
homo n, pl homos [NL, Homin-, Homo, genus name, fr. L, man] any of a genus (Homo) of primate mammals that usu. inludes a single recent species (H. sapiens) comprising all surviving and various extinct men
Or, alternately:
hom- or homo- comb form [L, fr. Gk, fr. homos - more at SAME 1 : one and the same : similar : alike (homograph) (homosporous) 2 homologous with a (specified) chemical compound (homogentisic acid)
Combined with:
-phobe n comb form [Gk -phobos fearing] : one fearing or averse to (something specified) (Francophobe)
[Webster's New Collegiate Dictionary, 1979, G. & C. Merriam Company. Springfield, MA)
So we have either:
homophobe : man fear, or fear of man (?), or
homophobe : similar fear, or maybe fear of sameness (?)
Neither of which make a whole lot of sense unless the meaning is twisted into the current version of newspeak the left always tries to use.