[Quix]

Given the health benefits--STRENGTHENED IMMUNE SYSTEM ETC--and the subjective comfort/intimacy benefits . . . it amazes me that spouses don't begin trading backrubs on their honeymoons and continue it forever.

But some have never had their childhood 0-6 yrs old buckets filled sufficiently to feel that they have much to give. They are still desperately trying to grasp all they can from others.

Often, it takes months, years of getting filled by quality others before some people learn that IT IS MORE BLESSED TO GIVE THAN RECEIVE.

I'd encourage people wanting backrubs to give such for months before even slightly hinting they'd like such in return. But sooner or later, there would come an opportune time to tell some dense clod that you'd like time about to be fair play.

[honeygrl]

I've given many many many more backrubs than I've recieved. But, I do love my hubby even without the backrubs. He's a great guy, just doesn't do backrubs. A footrub is out of the question too. He won't even let me touch his feet, muchless touch my feet. He has this weird aversion to feet.