We don't need to go down this path as I am sure we won't come to any agreement nor convince one the other of the folly of our divergent positions. I will go out on a limb here and accept that yours is to find a way to live in peace and harmony with a philosophy that I see is bent upon our total destruction. I am of the view there is only one recourse for us (the west) in this clash, but I do know that I am in the minority as most of us in the west can't or won't accept that Islam is bent upon the destruction of "our way of life".
Believe me when I say, I hope I am wrong, but from where I sit I don't see how we will eventually have any other way out but to accept that it is really "them or us" and we are embarked upon a life or death struggle.