Two old folks, an elderly married couple, were driving down a long, straight highway. The lack of anything else to focus on caused the woman to start daydreaming of past times. She remembered, and starting discussing this with her husband of over 30 years.
"You remember, we used to sit together, side by side, when we went on trips? I could lean against you, felt supported, safe.
Now we don't sit together, why is that?"
The husband looked over at his wife, whom he still adored, thought a second, and responded.
"I'm not the one that moved."
That would be to totally miss the value of the story.
The point is how easy it is for us to fall into patterns, and having done so, miss the easy answer.