[MineralMan]

"Your idea of finding a Christian woman who takes marriage seriously is a good one. Be prepared, though, that such a woman usually expects the man to be a serious Christian who takes his responsibility to the family as his #2 priority, second only to God."

Gosh, what a strange expectation! If you're not ready to make your family a top priority, don't marry. It's that simple.

[KantianBurke]

One signifigant worry for Gen X guys is the retirement factor. With an insolvent SS and staggering taxes coming right up, being financially devastated by a divorce is gonig to be even more damaging than ever.

[agrace]

To an atheist it would seem pretty strange I guess. :) But the reason FourPeas stated it as such is because biblically speaking, that's how it should be - loyalty to God first and family second, and with the knowledge that if God IS put first, your family is NEVER neglected. That goes for the wife too by the way.

And some great marriage advice from you on this thread too. You said in an earlier post -

Are you marrying because, along with the sex, you find your prospective partner to be the best friend you ever had? Then marry, by all means.

Absolutely. My husband and I have been married for ten years, we will both attest to the fact that we are best friends, have been since we got serious during dating, and I would rather spend time with him than anyone else on the planet.

These threads are such a mixed bag for me. They are depressing because so much negativity about marriage is expressed by the guys, but who can blame you all, you have great points. And at the same time it reminds me how precious my marriage is, and how rare these days, which is also sad. It infuriates me to read that women - in the name of liberation, how ironic is that - are so loose with themselves, thanks to the ridiculous modern culture summed up by the sluts of Sex in the City, and that no one can trust anyone else long enough anymore to build something real and lasting. Ugh, stop ranting already, I could go on...

[Tribune7]

God should always come first.