I actually had to read what I posted several times but finally it hit me. I work in an air conditioned office (about 35 hours/week), freep all day, and am basically waited on by fifteen gentlemen. On the other hand, my husband is a self-employed laborer who works outside in 90+ degree heat, often times 12-15 hours per day. He has come in so exhausted some evenings, turned his back to me, and asked if his a$$ was still there. He determines the stats at our house.
For the record, I have asked him to retire as we can live off my salary. He's still thinking about it.