Years ago, Barbara Walters was doing a laudatory interview of a gay celebrity couple - Melissa Etheridge and her lesbian "wife". The main point of the feature seemed to be to celebrate gay couples and portray them as perfectly normal. I could only stomach maybe 3 or 4 minutes of it, but I wanted to shout "Whoa! Stop! Rewind that again!" when Melissa's S.O. was telling how they met. In her own words, she described being happily married to some man who had some kind of recording industry job. According to her, she wasn't already looking to leave the marriage, nor was she attracted to lesbianism. But when she met Melissa, the force of her personality was so great that it just swept her away. She divorced her husband and entered into a lesbian relationship. And I'm thinking, "Hey! Don't they realize that even though they're trying their darndest to promote gay behavior with this TV feature, they just aired something that blows away one of their main talking points - namely that people are either born gay or they aren't?"
So much for the lie, "no one chooses to be gay". Certainly I would agree with a statement like, "many people did not choose to be gay". But the blanket statement you made is untrue. And as long as their are a large number of adolescents who could tip either way in their sexuality based at least partly on the cultural messages they soak in, then the issue of "recruitment" will always be important - especially to conservative parents. It's not the big "non-issue" the Left (and quasi-libertarian brainwashees of Hollywood) pretend that it is.
VR